Wednesday, March 18, 2009

The center of attention... you like being the center of attention? My Mother in Law is turning 80 in April. I wanted to throw a BIG party for her, invite everyone who knows her etc. She was SO uncomfortable with this idea. For a while I pressed the issue, and then I realized that instead of honoring her and doing something nice for her.... I realized that I was in fact "torturing" her instead. You see, she does not want to be the 'center of attention'. I put on my 'patience hat' and told her that her party would be exactly whatEVER she wanted it to be. And, it's going to be small.
And, that's okay.

Tomorrow is MY birthday....the big 5 0 ! I can tell that my husband and my daughter are conspiring, lots of whispered conversations. People are asking me "what are you doing for your birthday?". They want to hear about a big party or some such. No. I just want to do what we ALWAYS do. Dinner, cake and ice cream with my family. "Are you sure?", my family wants to know. Oh Yeah. I'm sure. I don't want to be the "center of attention". Ding Ding Ding! Yep, a bell went off in my head. I finally understood why my MIL was balking at my big party idea. I guess we have that in common.

What do you say when someone asks you "What do you want for your birthday?". I don't want anything. I'm at that age and stage in life, where if I want something, I get it (within reason). And, I don't want to ASK for's that "attention" thing again.

One thing I DO want and have told ANYONE who will a BIRTHDAY CAKE! I've been cutting calories for a week in preparation!! I want to eat cake until I'm stuffed!! I wanted to order just the right cake, so I called and ordered it myself. The lady says, "what do you want written on it?", I said "Happy Birthday Stephanie" (that's me!). Then she said "And YOUR name?". Hmmmm should I make one up? No. I said "Stephanie". Wonder what she thought about that?

So, how about you? Do you long to be the center of attention?


1 comment:

  1. Hmmm, maybe I should have done that on my 50th birthday. Nothing much exciting happened on my 50th. I was actually kind of disappointed. Well, the family did a little something. ehh. I have never had a special party just for me. Not for my birthday anyway. There was a bridal shower and baby showers, but those were so long ago.


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